We tend to look to others to prove our value.
We compare ourselves to others, to prove that we’re better. We change ourselves for others, to prove that we’re part of the group. We try to change others, to prove that we’re right.
The problem here is that your value is always dependent on others. On proving your “superiority,” your “belongingness,” or your “righteousness.” When your attempts to prove your value fail, you feel diminished.
Any time you look to others to prove your value, you give them power over you; they get to decide what your value is.
The reality is that you have nothing to prove. Your opinion is the only opinion that matters when it comes to your life—for you know yourself best. And this is probably one of the main reasons why you should strive to live a virtuous life; because in the end, it doesn’t matter what others think of you, but what you think of yourself—your conscience always knows the truth.
The truth is that people don’t care that much about you; they too have their own problems to deal with, and they too are trying to prove themselves to others. And even if they do care, they will still think whatever they want to think regardless of what you do.
Give yourself the approval. Whether others approve of you or not is their problem, not yours. You don’t need anyone’s approval to move forward with your life.
”Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. ― Les Brown
”A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others. ― Ayn Rand
”It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not. ― André Gide
”Self-esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves. ― Nathaniel Branden
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