Relationships can ruin your life. To succeed you need to protect yourself.

There are diseases, unwanted pregnancies, emotional baggage, unstable people, people with agendas, and so on. Mistakes here will cost you dearly.

And so, it is important to always screen people, to always take your time, and to rush absolutely nothing. Here, you do have all the time in the world.

Start off all your relationships as friendships; get to know the person first. And as you get to know them, make sure that you’re being the fullest expression of yourself, so as to quickly filter out the wrong people. Ask them the most daring questions that you genuinely want to know about them. Don’t be afraid to talk politics, religion, and all of society’s taboos to get to the point of things. You want to get to know the person as quickly as possible; not to rush things, but so as to know who you’re dealing with, so as to maximize your time and resources. After getting a good sense of the person, you can then slow down.

If the person is a potential partner and you like each other, get tested before having unprotected sex and agree on a type of birth control that you can both trust, if you’re not ready for children yet; if you’re getting married, write a pre-nup; if you’re married, write a post-nup; do anything and everything to protect yourself, protect your partner, and if you have kids, protect your kids. Don’t leave things up to chance or up to the government to decide. If your partner objects to any of these, then they’re probably not good for you.

You always have all the time in the world to build the right relationships.

Protect yourself, plan ahead of time, don’t rush anything, chase after no one, let go easily, leave space open, and only surround yourself with the right people.

And to the right people, give them your heart.

It is only by being bold that you get anywhere. If you are a risk-taker, then the art is to protect the downside. ― Richard Branson

Calculated risks of abuse are taken in order to preserve higher values. ― Warren E. Burger

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